Showing posts from January 3, 2010


I recently learned that I am an Optimalist. And here I was operating under the delusion that I was merely PollyAnna reincarnated.

Inspired by a book by Tal Ben-Shahar's "Pursuit of Perfect" I learned that I am a benefit finder rather than a fault finder. A good and noble pursuit, yes? Yes.

And yet, what I also know is that I tend to not be congruous with that behavior when it comes to self-application.

"Do not do unto yourself what you would not do to others."

Oh. A new spin on an old aphorism and the one I want to set as my goal and intention for this decade.

For those of you who were raised with siblings, you may have heard the phrase, "Be nice. Play nicely." As an only child, that was not one of the phrases adults would toss off at me. What I heard more often was:
"Children should be seen and not heard." Why didn't I know how to how to play charades back then? Or, as I grew up, I could have done a mean Marcel Marceau. (For those under th…